Hi, I’m David. I’ll help you get unstuck and overcome the roadblocks in your life.
Do you know what almost all of my new patients say to me when we first meet?
“I want a therapist who challenges me.”
I wholeheartedly agree. Talk therapy by itself isn’t useful if you’re wanting actual change. By making small changes on a daily basis, as a result of therapy we often see a significant difference in our lives. My goal is to help you turn your dream of getting better into a reality by using specific, actionable steps within a supportive environment.
I like the idea of a more proactive, aggressive approach to problem solving and it sounds like I can find that here.
– Patient review
My goal is to help people overcome their struggles and setbacks by taking practical steps that build upon each other to provide lasting and meaningful change. By doing this, I hope to help you connect with what you may have have lost in life and in yourself.
I feel very strongly that we can let what happens in our lives make us angry, resentful and afraid, or we can embrace these events as a way to grow stronger, yet softer, and end up being more open to where we need to be at in life.
This process of personal recovery is amazing to witness and I am always impressed by the motivation of my patients towards change. I come from a multi-generational family of therapists and psychologists. I have grown up in this environment all my life and “breathed the air” of psychology, so to speak. This experience has taught me that the hardest part of change for anyone is in getting to know yourself and to face the areas where we feel stuck at in life. If I can help during this process, I would be glad to assist you.
Make a real difference in your life
Work with David and learn how to get unstuck
Therapy rarely works if we only focus on one issue. Many times, we struggle against several overlapping issues. Knowing this is key.
Although many therapists can successfully help clients using standard therapy techniques, success is often limited if they don’t actually understanding the research behind our skills. In fact, therapists are far more effective if they have a better grasp on how and why treatment works.
In fact, getting rid of symptoms like depression or anxiety is not a guarantee that the problem is fixed. Just even dealing with new challenges and stress can cause a setback. Actually getting better often means working with a therapist long enough so that (1) our brain can change and heal itself, and (2) we can unlearn any bad patterns of thinking or behavior.
Frequently Asked Questions
Our first meeting is as much about you interviewing me as it is about me finding out more about you. This must be a “good fit” for both of us in order for your therapy to be effective, and to tailor treatment to your specific issues (there is no one size fits all).
Actually, a better indicator of what type of progress you’ll experience is to ask yourself how much you’re willing to work on the things we talk about in-between sessions. The harsh reality is that if you just “show up” to therapy, nothing really will change in the long run.
I am in-network with PacificSource, First Choice Health, Kaiser Permanente (“Added Choice”), and Samaritan Health. For other insurance plans, I can bill as an out-of-network provider. I also offer private pay for those interested in additional privacy.
My, that’s a lot of conditions (yes, I actually got this question once). My experience over the past 23 years has been that the more roadblocks and conditions we place in our way, or the more we try to bargain our way to success, the less likely it is that we’ll find what we’re looking for.
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