Codependency is defined as being in a relationship where you do all the work and suffer all the consequences. Meanwhile, the other person does not grow or change, others don’t even notice all that you do, or appreciate it, and you end up worn out, exhausted, blamed, and torn apart.
While others have significant flaws which we can easily point out, our contribution to the “dance of chaos” is more difficult to identify as what it really ends up being… part of the original problem! We learn how to be codependent from our childhood, our family of origin, and our life experiences.
Learning a new way to become “unstuck” is critical to our survival as an intact and whole person, capable of relating to others in a responsible and mature manner.