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Challenging Negative Self-Talk

Negative dialogue is one of the most important aspects of chronic anxiety, pain, along with stopping one’s progress in overcoming any problems. What we say to ourselves when we face the day, problems and difficulties, can cause us to feel depressed, anxious, or happy. One of the reasons we stay in a "bad state" is because of the way we talk to ourselves. Examples of Negative Self-Talk Sometimes, we mistake negative self talk as fact.  Some examples of this elusive mindset include: "My life sucks, I hate it!" "I'm nothing but a screw-up." "What's wrong with me?" "Why can't I be...
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Rates Slashed for Regence Oregon Psychotherapists

Back in early 2015, Regence Blue Cross Blue Shield announced that they would be cutting provider reimbursement rates by up to 30%. This rate reduction would affect mental health practitioners across the board at both the master's and doctorate level. Now, Mental health professionals have always had a difficult time when dealing with insurance companies. Rates are not reimbursed at the same level as other medical services, and until the Mental Health Parity Law, sometimes counseling wasn't even covered at all. However, a decrease in reimbursement rates is just confusing. The most distressing issue with this change is how it will indirectly...
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Physical Causes of Anxiety and Panic

Knowing the underlying causes of anxiety and panic allow you a way of understanding what you are doing that makes your symptoms worse. We do know that anxiety attacks, or panic, can easily be “set” in humans even after just one experience of being overwhelmed. This one time can set a “habit” and now can become automatic and your body can respond this way on a regular basis. Some people have “Anxiety Sensitivity” which suggests that some people are more prone to anxiety and panic attacks because of fact that they are just more “sensitive” types of people. Being “sensitive” can be...
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How Do I Know if I am Depressed?

One of the most common disorders in the world is depression. It is the “common cold” of emotional disorders and no one is exempt from it. We can deny and run depression, but at a cost. Whenever we try to deny feelings, hold things in, it will come out in some manner, whether through physical or emotional symptoms. Through counseling and therapy, we can “grow from these feelings” if we take the time to “look and examine” what this means for our life’s “journey.” Identifying Depression Most of us hate to admit it, but we all go through periods of adjustment that...
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How Can Biofeedback Help Manage my Stress?

Biofeedback is a fancy way of saying that we look for signals from our biology in order to tell us how relaxed or stressed we are. If we were as observant as Sherlock Holmes, we could possibly perform biofeedback by merely observing one's body language and responses. However, most of use aren't that keenly aware of the subtle differences in body language. To compensate for this, we use machines which can measure signals (heart rate, electrical signals, etc.) of our body and turn the results into visual feedback by numbers, sounds, gauges and other information. By learning how to control our physical...
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The Six Weakest Moments for Affairs

Affairs are difficult for most people to understand. Knowing the vulnerable periods can help in preventing and dealing with them for men and women alike. 1. The Hard-Working Steady Course Work Ethic We value getting up, working hard and long, coming home, dealing with the family, playing with the kids day-after-day. We lose our imaginations because we get stuck in a rut of daily life. We forget how to take time out, have fun, act like kids. We grind away under an ungrateful boss, spouse, etc., seeming to be trapped for the rest of our life — and then we die...
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Perfectionism: The Stress Personality

Stress, burn-out, and coping requires that we come to understand our own perfectionistic traits. Perfectionism forces us to take on too much, to be impatient, angry, hostile, and competitive. We feel that we must have things done a certain way. It drives us to work all the time, making it difficult to relax and have fun and relationships. A hard driving perfectionist demands more of others and of himself/herself. Perfectionism can be a deadly trait in the workplace, especially if the perfectionist is the boss. A ten year study of 9,000 managers found that perfectionism makes you sick. Perfectionism...
Shame and Guilt

Why Do I Feel Shame and Guilt?

People who suffer depression and anxiety frequently spend much of their time feeling shame about the past or worrying about the future. It comes as no surprise that this is a more common problem that we face every day than we'd like to admit to ourselves. How we understand feelings of guilt and shame helps us to focus and deal with these immobilizing emotions. Guilt and Shame From the Past Often, we have a feeling that we might have done some unforgivable thing in the past and deserve to be punished. Guilt is the punishment that makes us feel that we...
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How the Body Remembers

Physical symptoms, stress, anxiety, and chronic health care problems are many times overwhelming and difficult to deal with.  Such physical problems are exhausting and solutions many times are hard to find.  Because we believe that doctors and other professionals should have the answers to all of our physical health concerns, we are many times discouraged and upset when such solutions are not found.  It may be that we are looking in the wrong place for understanding what is wrong with us.  Here are a few thoughts that are critical to understand. The Mind-Body Connection Though we many times do not...
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What Makes a Relationship Last?

Psychologists have studied couples for years in order to find out what makes for a lasting relationship. However, predicting what is going to work “before” the marriage is more difficult. Ted Huston, Ph.D. found that marriages fall into four distinct groups:  Married and happy; married and unhappy; divorced early, within seven years, or divorced later, after seven years. Ultimately, the distinguishing factor between those who divorced and those who remained married was noted in the amount of change in the fist two years of the marriage. Happily Married These people were as happy and “in love” as newlyweds. They had less mixed feelings,...