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Does Insurance Cover Marital/Couples Therapy?

It's understandably frustrating when insurance says that marital therapy is covered, but the claim comes back as denied.  Here's what you need to know when seeking any therapist.The Confusing (but Short) AnswerMost insurances cover the cost of couples counseling. However, counseling for relationship issues is not a covered benefit. This slight-of-hand happens on a regular basis to insurance subscribers everywhere.Every. Single. Time.Confused? Annoyed? You're not alone. This all boils down to how and what. Let's dig into this a...
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The Real Impact of Chronic Pain

Having chronic pain affects self-image, relationships and interrupts life plans. It constricts physical and emotional abilities. It's frequently not understood or accepted by many people.Often, the person with chronic pain can be judged harshly. Many report feeling angry that the pain and fatigue hinders them from the things they love to do. Since the symptoms of chronic pain tends to change from day to day, family members and friends sometimes struggle with understanding how their loved one can be so impaired one day and are able to do things the next day. They may say, I thought you were...
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How Do I Get Out of My Own Way?

It's often a mystery to us why we get trapped in doing things that keep us “stuck” in life. Some call it self-defeating behavior. Others call it self-sabotage. Regardless of the terms we use to describe it, it means that we are acting in a way that is keeping us from finding real meaning and value in our lives.The Responsibility of Not Being a Victim You create your own experience through the choices you make on a daily basis. In order to avoid being a victim, you have to admit that once you realize you are doing things that are...
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Warning Signs of Violent Acts

There are ways of evaluating the potential of future violent acts by those people we associate with in our daily lives. Part of the problem is that we “choose to ignore” the signs and symptoms that suggest future problems in our relationships out of our “hopes, needs and desires.” The Nice Guy SyndromeWe frequently hear others describe people who have been violent as “nice guys” who never showed any indications that they might “lose it.” Others may like them, but they are difficult to live with....
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How Invisible Scripts Can Ruin Your Life

Let me tell you a little about how having “invisible scripts” can really mess up your life.The Nutty ProfessionalWay back in the day, I was a young 25 year-old crisis counselor in Tacoma, Washington. One of the things they don’t tell you when you’re starting out in any field is that the new guy gets all of the grunt work. As a new graduate, I was working evenings, nights and weekends and flying LITERALLY by the seat of my pants.My job was to...
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How to Recover and Get Rid of Repetitive Anxiety, Uncontrollable Worry, and the Uncertainty...

If you ever tempted to seek anxiety counseling, odds are that you might be struggling with worry. Worry is a mental chain of thinking that is persistent, repetitive, and uncontrollable. Worry mostly focuses on the uncertainty of the future. When we worry constantly about a number of things and cannot stop, this may be a hint that we might be suffering from a legitimate illness called Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD).Worriers tend to predict negative or threatening outcomes. They mentally rehearse various solutions to what they perceive to be a...
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How Do I Improve my Life with CBT?

The theory behind Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is that the way that people perceive situations is more closely connected to their reaction than the situation itself. When people are in psychological distress, they often are not seeing situations very clearly. Simply put, a therapist's job when using CBT is to help clients identify the thoughts that pop up into their minds, evaluate, and respond to them. The assumption is that when clients are able to do this, they feel better and can act in accordance with their goals. One critical component underlying all aspects of CBT is that just...
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I Can’t Sleep Because my (Stupid) Mind Keeps Racing

What do you do when you can't to shut off your mind at night? It's incredibly frustrating to be stuck like this with our anxious monkey-mind. Especially when we need to get some sleep because we've already wasted precious time sitting in bed thinking. Over and over.It's like that annoying late-night friend that lingers in your living room just a tad too long after everyone else has already left the party and gone home. They just won't take the hint to stop talking and go away. Our inability to sleep when our mind is racing is not that different....
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Armed with Only a Flashlight and a Wiffle Bat…

A few months back, I had an unexpected late-night scare.It was about 3:18 AM, and I was fast asleep. My wife woke me abruptly, concern in her voice. She had done this to me about an hour earlier to ask if I’d given the dog her medicine, so I was already mildly disturbed. But I didn’t expect what she said next:“DAVID, THERE’S SOMEONE ON THE ROOF!”Now, I’m not one for idle speculation. Especially at three in the morning. But I know my role as...
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How Do I Improve the Odds that Therapy Will Work for Me?

These are some things that just simply prevent one's ability to navigate therapy smoothly. When present, they can multiply one's ability to grow and recover by a factor of five. The affect not only one's mental health; they can amplify the symptoms you are struggling with. Without addressing these issues in parallel with the individual issues you bring to therapy, progress can be left at a standstill. Drug & Alcohol Abuse Combining mental health issues with alcohol and drug use is like pouring gas on the fire. And then we struggle when things continue to fall apart.It's not uncommon to be...