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Fibromyalgia Back Pains

Patients faced with the diagnosis of fibromyalgia are many times left confused by this mysterious disease. This can result in feeling lost and confused, wondering "what is wrong with me?" This is complicated by the fact that many health care professionals know little about this problem or what might be of help for it. The information presented here is only a brief overview of this disorder.  Use this as the start of your quest to find out more about this important and prevalent disorder. Diagnosing Fibromyalgia Fibromyalgia is a condition that was not well known until recently. The term means pain in...
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Why Does My Marriage Feel Like a Trap?

The Freedom of Choice is the most valued factor in our lives. Human beings will do most anything to insure that they can have choice in all of their decisions. Much of what counselors, therapists and psychologists hear in therapy is related to a sense that the individual does not have a sense of choice in their lives.  When we feel an obligation to do something, being forced to do what others want, we resist. This is made worse when there is a sense of betrayal in the relationship in some manner. This causes a worry about trust and how...
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How Do I Improve My Communication Skills With My Partner?

Learning to communicate together takes practice and time. You have to agree to work on it together and use several important steps. Understanding these important steps will help improve communication between you and your partner. Allow for Alone Time Do not try to communicate with your mate immediately upon their coming home. Give each other some time and space initially. Don't try to solve all your problems at one time. Know that it is fine for you and your mate to have time alone. Some time alone is necessary to wind down from work. This time alone though should not...
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How Do I Become Less Codependent?

If you want to change, you have to commit yourself to a personal changing plan. If you find things that get in your way ("blocks"), you have to do anything to understand why the blocks keep happening. However, you must look inside of yourself, not others, to find the answer. The following "laws of change" are designed to help you slowly grow out of codependent thinking patterns. They will allow you to enjoy life and "start living in the real world." 1. The Law of Personal Responsibility Stop looking to others for help, blaming them for problems, and look to yourself...
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Treatment and Fibromyalgia

Effective treatment must involve both behavioral/psychological and physical approaches to managing pains. Improvement is a step-by-step process, with periods of relapses and flare-ups, which require the patient being active in their own care. The course of treatment can be slow and take time with a large focus on being able to manage one's pain over time. There is no cure and the patient must understand how they can reduce the pains, manage problems, and use pain management ideas, which includes regular exercise (however, strength training may only worsen Fibromyalgia).  Important treatment concerns include: A major focus in improving the quality of sleep...
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How Do I Know if My Partner is Cheating on Me?

Relationships go through many stages, ups and downs, good times and bad. Most of the time we get through these difficult periods. At times, our intuition tells us that the relationship is in the midst of a crisis. Affairs can threaten your trust in the relationship. Understanding the critical clues to an affair can help keep things calm in difficult times. Clues to Unfaithfulness There is a sudden, and new, interest in one's physical appearance. New friends and acquaintances are developed outside of the marital relationship that become a focus on energy, focus and involvement. There are concerns about aging, time left, and a rush...
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Supplements and Mental Health

Many people are interested in natural methods to help offset the symptoms of mental illness. And who wouldn't be? As such, many people are interested in seeing what might work before (or even while) pursuing a non-natural solution. Below are some of the more common supplements used. The difficulty in deciding what is useful by means of anecdotal evidence is one of problems. Primarily, the two issues of correlation does not imply causation paired with the placebo effect. However, when the medical industry has money invested in pharmaceuticals, very few (if any) research is done on non-prescriptive solutions. L-Methylfolate Folic acid is one...
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How Do I Know If I am Ready to Date Again?

After a painful divorce or if a relationship falls apart, it is important that we take a honest look and understand why the relationship fell apart to ensure that we are whole and ready before we can be a good partner to someone else. Getting involved in a new relationship or getting re-married because you are bored or lonely will only ensure the same disaster and heartache that you have already experienced. We do this to avoid struggling, growing and learning to live as a whole person. Before you start a new relationship, make certain to ask yourself these important...
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Pre-Surgical Evaluations for Chronic Pain

The goal of a pre-surgical evaluation is to determine which patients will have the best chance of responding to surgery. Some patients will be poor responders to surgical intervention regardless of how successful the procedure may be. Here's what you should know. Others may have a better chance of responding to surgery if they have first received other appropriate treatments which make them more receptive to a surgical intervention. Some patients may first need to become more aware of factors in their lives which will interfere with a successful response to surgery. These same patients may need help in identifying...
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How NOT to Talk to Your Doctor

In order to understand how to best talk with your doctor (or psychiatrist, psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, or other medical provider), you need to know one very important concept: Your doctor wants to help you! However, as healthcare costs continue to rise, there is a push for doctors to see as many patients as they can. This can frustrate even the best doctors, and happens more often than not. Also, doctors are human beings and despite our expectations, they tend to dislike displays of unpleasant emotions, disorganized patients or those that make them feel as if they must "fix"...