When you play with matches, you will get burned

Warning Signs of Violent Acts

There are ways of evaluating the potential of future violent acts by those people we associate with in our daily lives. Part of the problem is that we “choose to ignore” the signs and symptoms that suggest future problems in our relationships out of our “hopes, needs and desires.”  Understanding a few issues helps one to make realistic and logical decisions about what to expect from others. The Nice Guy Syndrome We frequently hear others describe people who have been violent as “nice guys” who never showed any indications that they might “lose it.” Others may like them, but they are difficult...
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The Real Impact of Chronic Pain

Having chronic pain affects self-image, relationships and interrupts life plans. It constricts physical and emotional abilities. It's frequently not understood or accepted by many people. Often, the person with chronic pain can be judged harshly. Many report feeling angry that the pain and fatigue hinders them from the things they love to do. Since the symptoms of chronic pain tends to change from day to day, family members and friends sometimes struggle with understanding how their loved one can be so impaired one day and are able to do things the next day. They may say, I thought you were...
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How Do I Get Out of My Own Way?

It's often a mystery to us why we get trapped in doing things that keep us “stuck” in life. Some call it self-defeating behavior. Others call it self-sabotage. Regardless of the terms we use to describe it, it means that we are acting in a way that is keeping us from finding real meaning and value in our lives. The Responsibility of Not Being a Victim You create your own experience through the choices you make on a daily basis. In order to avoid being a victim, you have to admit that once you realize you are doing things that are...
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Why Can’t I Stop Worrying?

Many people would describe themselves as "OCD". In reality, many of us aren't suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder so much as suffering from obsessive-compulsive worry. Obsessive-compulsive worry is like a negative spiral. The longer you focus on your anxious thoughts, the deeper you go into them. A hypnotic-like trance is developed by the repetition of these worries. What's important to realize is that obsessive-compulsive worriers tend to be very sensitive, intuitive, and bright people who tend to be more aware of what is happening around them then most other people are. This special ability to "pick up" on things can be scary. It...
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Do I Have to Take Medication?

One of the more common concerns expressed by patients is about taking medications for depression or anxiety. Many times, we want to be able to do things on our own without the need for something "artificial". Other times, we just have a gut reaction to the thought of having to take medications for something that's "all in our head".  The most important part, regardless of whether you take medications or not, is to have a comprehensive evaluation by a counselor or mental health practitioner. This ensures that you will have all the information you need in order to make an...