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How Do I Come to Terms with my Divorce?

Divorce, or the loss of a relationship, is a very difficult time for all concerned.  It brings out many emotions, causes much confusion, and affects children, adults, parents, and the community.  Relationships are important to our lives and it is difficult for us to experience the loss of them. As we experience the changes of divorce, it is important that we understand what has happened. Divorce happens for many reasons: Because the relationship was not right from the beginning. Because the other person refused to grow in the relationship, did not do their part, was more dependent on their spouse, ...
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Controlling Your Next Panic Attack

Steps to control panic attacks are ironic. On the one hand, they are simple and straightforward. On the other hand, they are the most difficult to follow through with.  Here are some of the most critical steps in controlling your next panic attack. First, admit that you are feeling anxious. Accept your body feelings as symptoms of your anxiety and a sign that something is bothering you. Try to figure out what is really bothering you. Is it some type of conflict that you don't want to deal with? Is it a scary thought? Is it a ridiculous expectation you have...
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Major Mistakes Made by Patient in Chronic Pain

There is no doubt that “entering the world of chronic pain” is a confusing and difficult process.  Many times, patients do not understand some of the basics of pain management approaches to care.  However, helping patients to become aware of various problems and mistakes, ahead of time, will allow them to respond differently and learn how to become part of the pain management team.  This handout is to be given to patients as they start treatment for their chronic pain problems.  There is no question that for the person living in chronic pain, life is very difficult and exhausting.  In...
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Warning Signs of Violent Acts

There are ways of evaluating the potential of future violent acts by those people we associate with in our daily lives. Part of the problem is that we “choose to ignore” the signs and symptoms that suggest future problems in our relationships out of our “hopes, needs and desires.”  Understanding a few issues helps one to make realistic and logical decisions about what to expect from others. The Nice Guy Syndrome We frequently hear others describe people who have been violent as “nice guys” who never showed any indications that they might “lose it.” Others may like them, but they are difficult...