Stress, burn-out, and coping requires that we come to understand our own perfectionistic traits. Perfectionism forces us to take on too much, to be impatient, angry, hostile, and competitive. We feel that we must have things done a certain way. It drives us to work all the time, making it difficult to relax and have fun and relationships.

  • A hard driving perfectionist demands more of others and of himself/herself.
  • Perfectionism can be a deadly trait in the workplace, especially if the perfectionist is the boss.
  • A ten year study of 9,000 managers found that perfectionism makes you sick.
  • Perfectionism causes many common ailments such as heart disease, hypertension, stomach distress, headaches, back pains, and migraines.
  • Perfectionists are super-competent, hard-working, bright people.
  • Perfectionists are too locked into their own need to be perfect to realize the distress they cause others. In fact, a true perfectionist’s compulsion to do more and be better can drive other people crazy.
  • Never satisfied with their own efforts, perfectionists are seldom satisfied with others.
  • Perfectionists have a hard time letting others do things themselves, without telling them how it must be done in detail.
  • Perfectionists have a great deal of difficulty stepping back, being empathetic with others or being self-forgiving for doing something less than perfectly.
  • Perfectionists see themselves as “champions of quality,” setting very high “standards of quality.”
  • Perfectionists can’t get close to anybody, although this is often hard to admit as this would requires one to be “less than perfect”.

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David Lechnyr is a individual therapist and marriage counselor specializing in depression, codependency, self-esteem, anxiety, stress, panic attacks, divorce, communication skills, and relationship issues.