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How to Say NO to an Amoeba: Realistic Boundaries for Modern Times

We all want to be fair, kind and loving to the people that we care about. Sometimes that means going out of our way for them. At other times, it means putting up with a certain amount of crap. In the long run, we hope and bet on the odds that it's worth it for our relationship to have a little give-and-take.However, giving out love without any boundaries can be extremely dangerous. Let's explore!Carl Sagan once wrote about how this all may have developed. Imagine ancient history: At some point...
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Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud?

Do you feel like a fraud who just "fakes it" and is in danger of being found out?Most adults have struggled through their lives to develop themselves in some way that allows them to function in the world as "normal human beings".  As a result, we have had to overcome our insecurities and "act as if everything is okay."This results in the "fake-it until you make it" way of approaching life, and we might occasionally feel like a phony or a  charlatan. However, there are some people who are constantly worried that others will...
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The Unexpected Cost of Your Priorities

We all have priorities in life. When it comes to our emotions, there are basically four priorities that we tend to choose from:ComfortPleasureControlSuperiorityBut it may surprise you that they all have unexpected consequences.What you do will make others feel things that you cannot control.  You’ll also end up paying a price by focusing on what you want out of life, because you can’t have it all.  And ironically, you will have an Achilles’ Heel where you are the most vulnerable. If you don't know...
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How Can I Find and Keep Happiness in my Life?

Happiness is essentially a byproduct of our search in life. When we make it our goal, it becomes elusive, ethereal and unattainable.We all struggle in life wondering when we will feel better, happier, more comfortable, in less pain, or having fewer worries. Many times, we feel that the answers do not seem to be forthcoming in our lives and we end up wondering if we will ever find it.  However, we sre more stressed when we focus on problems and this only makes us have more physical problems and sadness.  Understanding a few key points regarding...
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Losses and Their Meaning in our Lives

Understanding grief and loss in our lives can help us cope with the difficult times. We are people who attach ourselves to people, pets, and things and when they are gone we miss them.Types of LossesLoss of a Loved one through death, divorce, separation OR even the death/loss of a pet animal. Loss of long-held beliefs about our being invulnerable and immortal, because we have suffered a trauma, injury, illness. Loss of ideas or beliefs about one's world, self, or others. Loss of ability...