Personal Growth & Development

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The Flashlight, the Wiffle Bat and the Raccoon

A few months back, I had an unexpected late-night scare. It was about 3:18 AM, and I was fast asleep. My wife woke me abruptly, concern in her voice. She had done this to me about an hour earlier to ask if I’d given the dog her medicine, so I was already mildly disturbed. But I didn’t expect what she said next: “DAVID, THERE’S SOMEONE ON THE ROOF!” Now, I’m not one for idle speculation. Especially at three in the morning. But I know my role as...
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The Variables of Optimism, Perception and Control

In 1965, Commander James Stockdale was flying over enemy territory when he was forced to eject from his plane. Stockdale was captured, tortured and held as a prisoner of war for seven years before his escape. How he dealt with his situation draws an inescapable conclusion regarding what it takes to survive in life when the odds are against us. After gaining his freedom, he was interviewed for a book in 2001. At some point during the discussion, his interviewer paused and changed the topic of conversation. “How,” he wanted to know, “did you survive all of those years of capture and...