David specializes in working with following issues:
Anxiety, Stress & Worry
Worry is a pattern of thinking that is persistent, repetitive, and uncontrollable. When we worry, we often focus on the uncertainty of the future and are afraid that bad things will happen. We plan over and over in our head various solutions to our problems. Yet this in-depth thinking and ruminating never seems to provide any relief.
Depression, Feeling Sad & Unmotivated
When we’re suffering from depression, we tend to think differently from other people. It’s as if we filter everything we see and experience through a negative light. Not surprisingly, this takes a big hit on our self-esteem and confidence. We start to feel discouraged and unmotivated as time goes on. Nothing feels the same as it once did. We wonder what’s wrong with ourselves, and we eventually end up believing that things will never, ever change. Even low-grade depression over a long period of time can be crippling.
I use Gottman Method Couples Therapy to help couples understand why they are stuck in unhealthy communication patterns. My focus is on helping increase friendship and intimacy, minimizing conflict, and learning how to constructively handle arguments without making the situation worse. I have completed Level 2 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Codependency is defined as being in a relationship where you do all the work and suffer all the consequences. Meanwhile, the other person does not grow or change, others don’t even notice all that you do, or appreciate it, and you end up worn out, exhausted, blamed, and torn apart. We learn how to be codependent from our childhood, our family of origin, and our life experiences. Learning a new way to become “unstuck” is critical to our survival as an intact and whole person, capable of relating to others in a responsible and mature manner.
“I’m my own worst critic,” we might say in a sudden moment of insight. It is very true that most of us are hard on ourselves, particularly if we get even the slightest hint that we don’t measure up in some way – in our achievements, career or study, social standing, relationships, appearance, body image, financial status, and so on. If we make even the smallest mistake, then we have a tendency to berate ourselves, and if we make a genuine medium or large mistake, then look out!
Socially anxious people fear being evaluated negatively which is linked unhealthy beliefs about themselves and other people. They are anxious about appearing anxious in front of others. They tend to avoid certain interpersonal situations or endure them with a source of dread.
Obsessions are recurrent and persistent thoughts, urges, or images. They are often experienced as intrusive and unwanted, and cause anxiety or distress. We try to ignore or suppress these thoughts or images, but often with little success.
Compulsions are repetitive rituals that are experienced as thoughts or actions. Examples include counting, excessive hand washing, and so on. Compulsions are usually triggered by obsessions. We feel urgently driven to perform these rituals until we feel that it is “complete” in some manner.
Forms for Therapists
If you’re a mental health therapist, I provide a selection of forms for use in your practice. The two most requested ones are the Non-Patient Disclosure Form (for use in couples/family therapy) and the Legal Testimony Disclaimer.
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